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What does it mean to cleave to your spouse? Continued... |
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Step three: Become one flesh. One body. The eye can not say it doesn’t need the hand, nor can the foot say it doesn’t need the mouth. While separate when apart the full functioning as intended by G-d only comes into being when these things are joined together. To separate any part of the body is an amputation that leaves the body less than what was intended.
Think about it. Each of the four scriptures states therefore or for this reason. For what reason? Woman was made from the side of man. Man is not complete now that he has had a part of him removed. G-d’s plan is for the union of these parts to recreate one flesh. Woman was made to be the object of man’s love. Man has an inherent desire to love another and that other is the person G-d made for man’s completion, woman. G-d brought woman to man.
To become one flesh it takes effort. Glue is applied and allowed to set. The individual weak pieces of wood become one piece of plywood that is stronger than any part alone. It becomes inseparable without doing permanent damage to each part. It is now “one flesh.” That process requires thinking of the spouse first. To maintain a relationship of one flesh that is healthy takes exercise. In this case time to communicate each and every day, eliminating the thought of my money and your money as all things belong to the one body. What to do with your time is focused on what is good for your spouse. It is a selfless loving forsaking all other items in your life.
Now why do I focus on this duty being that of the man? Woman derives a lot of her self worth from the love of her husband, and feels the tranquility of the security of a stable home that her husband puts foremost in his life. I am yet to find an unhappy woman who says her husband is focused on her desires and her safety. This is a major part of what a woman wants in life.
Does a man desire the same? Maybe to some degree, but what I find most men desire more than this is respect. A man wants to know he is respected by his wife as head of the household. And respect is earned by looking out for others and working with them. If a man focuses on loving, cleaving to his wife as stated above; if he is focusing his very being on cleaving to her and making her pleasure, safety, and well being the center of his life he does not have to worry about her submitting herself to her husband and showing him the respect he craves.
Leave, Cleave, and Be One even as a piece of plywood. Maybe the mystery of marriage isn’t so hard after all. |
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Isaiah 11:6 2 Thessalonians 2:15 |
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No part of the body can say it doesn’t need the other parts. |
